Saturday, March 26, 2011

Earth Hour

I had my lights off,
Have you?


Switched off everything in the house for an hour.
Don't know if we are actually creating more pollution.
But then, we are saving power right?
Guess its the awareness that counts.


Candles will take over the role.


Lia lighting up the candles, both of us were super excited.



I looked like a hollow woman there.
Risked to light up the carpeted staircase.
I'm glad we didn't burn down our house after one hour.
SAFE.


Play your part today.
Switch off your lights at 8.30pm for an hour.


I love you earth.

xox
J


Friday, March 25, 2011

繁忙的心情日記

連續下了幾天的雨,連臥龍崗也有一點淹水了。看來地球真的生病了。
下雨天陰陰的,讓人的心情也跟著灰了起來。


大雨大在門上,模糊了外面的世界,原本那片漂亮的藍色大海,再也看不見了。
是否,我的心也被蒙上了一層大大的霧?
是否,我也在尋找那片曾經屬於我的藍藍大海?


第三天的雨,沒有小過。
一直不停地下,不停地下。


下到香蕉也變貴了。回來到現在真的一根香蕉也沒吃到。
讓我回去馬來西亞把香蕉吃個夠!


陪伴我的,只有我的書桌。
最近看電腦看多了,眼睛佈滿血絲,
很乾很乾。
或許是澳洲天氣太乾旱了吧,以整個人就是很乾,
喉嚨,鼻子,眼睛,嘴唇,皮膚,
一個字-乾!
我要回去那片潮濕的土地!


終於,雨過天晴。
最近很早起,早到可以看到日出。
生活很有規律,原來壓力可以使一個人便正常。
現在沒有上課,沒有時間表,沒有限制,
卻因為太自由,所以自己心裡變得規律了起來。
害怕,害怕如果沒有早點起來做些什麼會浪費時間。

臥龍崗是個漂亮的地方。每天從窗口望出去,
看到那片海,還有太陽,
會讓我不自覺笑了起來,
會讓我充滿朝氣!


不知道什麼時候開始,習慣自然,
頭髮隨便扎一扎,眼睛戴上就走。
這是考試前的我。
我已經早睡早起了,黑眼圈似乎重來沒有離開,
拜託,去找那些早上才睡的人好嗎?

最近才真正體會到什麼叫累。
累到眼睛時常睜不開來,
累到呼吸也要用很大的力氣,
累到有時候想念一個人,也沒有勇氣。
不再去強迫相對的思念,
是我這幾個下雨天,做了很多家務時悟出來的道理。
不用執著,放手讓它去。

很累,因為有兩萬字下個月要交。
很累,因為要策劃實驗,實行實驗,再接受失敗的實驗。
很累,因為在寫兩萬字之前,我首先要讀兩百份紙。
很累,因為每個月要考試。
很累,因為最近愛上了運動讓自己累。
很累,因為不管多累,還是要充滿朝氣地去教一群化學新生。
很累,因為最近又答應了當物理家教。
哈,所以我現在要重讀我的物理,才發現物理真的很無聊。
不管再累,心總是會牽掛着家,牽掛著遙遠的他。

雖然累,可是卻覺得很充實。
因為我在邁著我的目標前進。
要努力之餘,也要賺錢。


就好像今天很早很早起,天剛破曉,
看見太陽慢慢地從水平線升起,
看見天上的星星逐漸消失,
我知道這些是循環,都會過去。
希望和夢想會慢慢實現,
所有的疲勞,累和埋怨會慢慢不見。




最後,請叫我鬍子性感尤物!

對,我是瘋子。

J

Monday, March 21, 2011

【轉載】一人一半才是「伴」by 王偉忠

【轉載】


一人一半才是「伴」
文╱王偉忠


陶子重義氣,她要我做什麼,我就做什麼。她要我談一談婚姻感情,就談吧!反正我也到了開口說話會帶點道理,但年輕人聽不進去的年齡。

我跟太太戀愛八年結婚,婚後十七年,總共認識了二十五年。這麼長的時間日夜相伴,身旁偶爾沒有她,感覺很爽,倘若此後一輩子沒有她,萬萬不可。

像前一陣子看到一則意見調查,問年輕女孩,家人、父母、孩子、老公與事業,如果硬要抉擇,會先放棄哪個?

女孩選了選,先放棄了事業,然後家人、父母,剩下老公與孩子難以抉擇,最後選擇放棄孩子、留下老公,理由是家人、父母、孩子最終都會離開身邊,但老公會是終身伴侶。很殘酷、但也很真實。

中國字的寓意深遠,「伴」,就是一人一半,湊在一起才完整。

現今許多人適婚卻不婚,老人家看了奇怪,過去從沒發生過類似狀況。這現象代表五、六十年來沒有戰亂、年輕人長大過程中享有家庭溫暖與親情支援,因此認為單身也能過得很好,不論敗犬或是單身貴族,不覺得非要個伴,是歷史上首度可以一個人過日子的平安歲月。衰老未至,沒有歲月的壓力,等年齡到了,開始覺得孤獨、害怕孤獨,想找個人分享,還是需要個伴。

若要進入婚姻,套一句不負責任的老生常談,要靠緣份,除了緣份以及感性的感覺,還要理性的選擇。婚姻確實需要理性,如果女兒論及婚嫁,我一定要求要看看對方家庭,什麼樣的家庭會養出什麼樣的孩子,當然,也有破碎家庭的孩子更努力維繫自己的幸福家庭,但一定要仔細觀察。

而另一個老生常談就是婚姻需要兩個人有相同的價值觀,但這不是說「我喜歡的你一定要喜歡」,而是「我不討厭你喜歡的」,就可以了,兩人可妥協,可退讓,願意試著接觸自己本來討厭的,看看是否真那麼不能接受,有這樣願意妥協的心情,比較容易維繫感情。

而婚姻與愛情最大的不同,在於願不願意改變。願意為了對方改變自己,是真愛,從頭到尾都不想改變自己,這段感情充其量只是對方愛你。

戀愛是短暫的交會後很想在一起而開始,很想閃的結束。開始時乾柴烈火,講究原汁原味,眼前的他什麼都好,是全天下最酷的、最美的,不需要改,但等到愛情疲了,才發現這人酷到不近人情、美得過於臭美、連刺青的位置不對,趕緊推給個性不合閃人。因此戀愛講究的是如何好聚好散

進入婚姻,當然還是會有許多衝突,學習重點是「相處的藝術」。男生該學的第一課就是上廁所必須掀馬桶蓋,一開始改變很不習慣,後來融入身體,像吃飯喝水一樣自然。

但最近老婆說不只要掀蓋子,尿完還希望我拿衛生紙擦擦馬桶周圍留下來的「遺跡」,按照過去的脾氣,一定就「老子愛….」,但現在的我會聽太太的意見,因為「愛」字裡有個心,不是光用腦想著該送什麼禮物給她,要用心。

太太也改變不少,她不喜歡戶外活動,婚前知道我愛潛水、跟著背起十幾公斤重的空氣瓶跳進海底求生,這麼愛美的她怕晒黑、塗防晒油塗滿臉,一回頭、嚇一跳,怎麼來了個歌仔戲花旦跟我一起玩。

婚後我又想潛水,她就說「不必了」,理由是家裡有孩子,不宜從事太危險的活動。

以前一個人在台北發展,要自己照顧自己,還要爭名奪利,不自私很難在短時間之內成就自己。結婚之後學著喊太太的媽媽「媽!」,有食物,不能先放進自己嘴巴,要顧著妻小先吃。我開始懂得心疼與珍惜,因為太太很好,捨不得讓她不舒服、捨不得讓她傷心,這些捨不得讓我自然學會了讓、學會了愛,也自然的改變自己,從自私變成大方。

婚姻的路是每天類似的風景,同樣的過程、淡淡的,要相處得好,真得靠慧根,所以找對象不能光想找個腿長奶大的辣妹,或是像金城武的帥哥,要找個讓自己想起他來心裡甜甜的,回頭一看,那人就在燈火闌珊處,這就是最好的對象。

而所謂另一半,也不是一開始就契合,是在修正中不斷的磨合,你多一點我少一點,像拼圖一樣拼在一起,才能一起過一輩子。

當然,歲月無情,人生最終還是分離。像我媽媽十六歲嫁給爸爸,相守相愛了一輩子,爸爸十多年前過世之後,媽媽真像少了一半,常凝望遠方,像爸爸就在天的那一邊,令人感傷。但人生如果少了婚姻、少了隨之而來的酸甜苦辣生老病死,少了孩子延續家的價值與感情,真會少掉很多滋味。


Sunday, March 20, 2011

幸福沒有捷徑,只有經營

聽了范范《最重要的決定》裡的歌詞,真的被感動到了。
彷彿進入了那首歌的意境,感受到終於可以跟她愛的人一輩子的那種幸福。



在馬來西亞保守的社會裡,很少很少可以看到老夫老妻很恩愛地在一起。
上上一代,甚至上一代,似乎都很含蓄,不善於表達愛意;有誰會真的聽到爺爺奶奶在說我愛你,看到爸爸媽媽摟摟抱抱?可是,這並不代表他們不愛。他們是細水長流的愛,不說出口,卻以行動來表示的愛。很多老一輩的情人,並沒有浪漫的邂逅,也沒有轟轟烈烈的戀愛,很多,都只是相親一次就結婚的夫妻,可是他們卻能長廂廝守,換著是我們,做得到嗎?或許他們知道,他們這一輩子注定要跟這個人在一起,他們的選擇只有幸福地走下去,或者不理不睬一輩子。

很慶幸年輕的一代漸漸勇於表達自己的感受,畢竟,愛就是要勇敢說出來!然而,橫衝直撞的我們有時候卻不懂得真正去愛。有的人覺得,愛就是什麼都要聽我說,愛就是你要隨時在我身邊,愛就是看你買什麼禮物送我。現在很多年輕人,不懂得天長地久。我們的愛情經歷不起考驗和風浪,我們在面對一點點挫折的時候就想要分手,我們都在為自己著想,我們覺得自己比誰都還要重要。



有一些人很輕易地就開始一段感情,走入一段婚姻。大家都抱著躍躍一試的態度,不合大不了分手,劈腿大不了離婚嘛。對,離開了一個不適合自己的人,或者抽離一段不幸福的婚姻,當然是正確的決定。只是,在離開過後,才發現自己已經遍體鱗傷;有個朋友,在結婚前發現未婚夫劈腿,讓她決定從此不再談戀愛,從此不再相信愛情。原本為了愛付出的一切,得來的回報,只是沒辦法衡量的傷害。是不是在決定要跟另一個人在一起時,就要一起努力地走向幸福?

就好像范范唱的:因為幸福沒有捷徑,只有經營。

記得在網路上曾經聽過這樣的一句話:與其不斷地去找一顆最閃耀的鑽石,倒不如把手上的這顆石頭好好磨亮。是的,與其一直抱著騎驢找馬的態度,不如好好地經營現在的這段感情;因為不是每個人都那麼幸運可以撿到鑽石,就算撿到了鑽石,你能確保你擁有它比擁有石頭還要快樂嗎?



我相信愛情可以天長地久,也相信兩個人真的可以白頭到老。在澳洲的這些日子以來,我看過了好多好多老夫老妻。他們儘管白髮斑斑了也牽著手一起搭巴士,就算有個人拿著拐杖搖搖欲墜,另一個人仍然緊握他的手,互相扶持。這是多麼令人感動的一面啊!我時常跟自己說,我只想要嫁給一個,我老了還會願意牽著我的手走的人。因為一個人就算有再多財富,再多地位,再多學歷,到老了病了要死了,那一些身外物,又能帶給你什麼?真正的快樂,是發自內心的快樂,是有人可以一起分享的快樂。



最近看見很多人結婚的喜訊,心裡真的替他們開心,也祝福他們幸福。真的,在68億人當中,找到一個願意愛你,願意下半輩子跟你一起生活,願意和你生兒育女,願意從此跟你共享福共患難的人,實在不容易。有個人曾經跟我說過:愛你的人,就是會為你想的人。想想每天早上睡醒有個人在你身邊,可以等著你愛的人回家,兩個人一起努力創造未來。很累很難過的時候有的人在身邊一起加油打氣,真的不需要什麼轟轟烈烈浪漫的情節,這些簡簡單單的日子,才是幸福。或許我的想法天真,或許我沒有考慮到現實的一面,或許這世界上只有少數人這樣想。可是我願意相信,因為只有相信,心裡才會有一個信念去做。做了,才會真正感受到幸福。

有的人,像空氣一樣,有它的時候,你不會覺得有什麼不一樣;沒有他的時候,你才會了解到你不能失去他。所有人都覺得呼吸是理所當然的事,卻不知道,這世界上有多少人在生死邊緣掙扎著,有多少人,還沒來得及體驗呼吸就離開這個世界。最近發生種種的天災人禍,才發現,生命真的好脆弱。別再浪費時間了,在你還有呼吸的時候,好好去珍惜你的空氣吧!



這,是一首歌引發我想到的事。

J



Sunday, March 13, 2011

台灣。冬天。Day 1 & 2

As I promised, updates on my Taiwan trip after 2 months lol.

Our journey kicked off with the flight from Pen-Kul one day before and heaps thanks to obc & his friends to come fetch us, bring us around, and let us squeeze in his crib. Apparently he cleaned the house because we were coming, hah, maybe I should visit more so that your house is always tidy and neat!

So the next day S and I took off with Air Asia and started our journey! Still talk like nobody's business in the plane, and a weird man just kept looking at us, and when we were waiting for the door to open, we kinda had eye contact, and started our weird conversation.

Him : Are you both musicians? Cause I think your gestures when you talk is very nice and elegant. (Strong taiwanese mandarin accent)
Me and Shin : =.=" (We both talked like how those people would talk when they are in the market trying to bargain)
Me: Errrrr..... I learned piano???
Him: Oh, That's why! So you both Malaysian? Where do you live? Coming for a trip? bla bla bla bla
Me: (Being polite responded to his questions) So.. you are taiwanese (with my fake strong taiwanese accent)
Him: Oh no, I am Malaysian, I am from (dont remember), I am a musician, I have a workshop here...
Me: Ohhhh....

(People started to move, so both of us just grab our bags and leave without saying goodbye, which now I think is quite rude.) But the problem is, how do we end this conversation? Even I said good bye at that moment, we are still going to walk on the same aisle towards the door, then if I said goodbye after we left the plane, we might still bump into each other when we are waiting for our luggage, imagine how awkward would that be, shall we say hi or what. LOL anyways I don't really care of him that much because I just wanted to leave the airport and see my bf so badly.

So finally I saw him, all that excitement and weirdness seeing each other at a place that we have never thought of. Max and him came to pick us up, then we went for dinner with his family and then Miramar (美麗華).


We both looked like shit after getting of the plane. Bad hair, oily face, no make up, and the weather is super cold. Well, and we both looked like shit for the days after because it was too cold for us to leave our down jackets.

Day 2- On the Metro.

Heading to the National Palace Musuem (故宮) and it was raining. The season when we went is the coldest season of winter in 20+ years in Taiwan, and it RAINED everyday. Before we went we were like : Gosh we have to bring a lot of clothes, take a lot of nice pictures, (u know how hard is it to be pretty during a trip because the lack of equipment like curling tongs and matching clothes, shoes, bags, accessories etc because we were both cheapskates we only pay for 15 kg baggage allowance). And PLAN FAILED, it was so cold and rainy that if we were to were our normal jacket we had to wear so many layers inside it's so heavy by the end of the day our whole body aches, so we prefer to just wear a top and the same old down jacket for the rest of our trip. We are just not those girls would that rather be pretty and cold to death than ugly and comfy.

Got off at Shilin station and took a bus to the musuem.

Destination!

The outside of the musuem.

We were not allowed to take pics inside so we just took pic with whatever it is outside. 

DON'T GO ON MONDAYS! The garden was closed :(

I wouldn't say visiting the musuem is not fun but after hours and hours of looking at the old things we both got really tired. Well I think the jade cabbage and meat were really impressive. Other than that I don't really remember lol.

And guess what? We were so tired but as soon as we arrived at the metro station, we shopped in some random shops for hours and hours, got so excited and happy after spending money, and it's time for the bf to feel really tired because we starved him. : D

So after telling him the 7th time that "Baby don't worry we are going for dinner soon", we finally headed to the Shilin Night Market to hunt for food!

I think it is 豪大大,雞排but shin thinks it is 豪大,大雞排.
As what the name says, it is a super huge chicken chop, finally something is bigger than  as big as my face!
Tasted very good! 

The queue behind for the chicken chop. 

Everyone get to do one signature pose with the food.

臭豆腐!It was our first try! When I went to the market I kept thinking why it smells like toilet or those congested drain? Then I realised it's the smell of this thing.

Still ate it anyway. It tasted OK but it's like eating some junk from the toilet. 

Happier with our 蚵仔煎. Although I still think the malaysian version with hot chili sauce is nicer. Their sauce is sweet. But they have fresh and nice oyster. 

大腸包小腸. Direct translation : big intestine wraps small intestine. 
Big Intestine: Sausage like with glutinous rice in it.
Small intestine: Sausage.
And you cut along the "big intestine" and stuff a sausage in.

They looked really tempting and yummy but OIL, FAT, CALORIES just popped out of my head.

牛舌餅. Very thin piece of biscuit with something sweet inside, maybe yam.
Which I think is really yummy :)  
Still hungry we opted for 阿宗麵線. Its mee sua with oyster soup, and the soup base is sour-ish, which I quite likey too :) 


BUT, the best thing is........................
TADAAA!
Honey and Bitter Gourd JUICE!!!!
My favourite of that night!!!
Give it 6 stars!



That's my first stop in Taiwan, hopefully more posts will be coming up ;)

p/s: Pray for Japan, Pray for the World.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

It is not as bad as I thought

I came up with this motivation to update my blog when I don't really have much things to say. My life is just a routine, sleeping at 11.30pm and wake up at 7.30am now sounds really reasonable to me. At least I have eight hours of sleep. I have not been very keen to do honours from the start, if its not for the sake of a better job opportunity and scholarship opportunity, I will definitely bail, like some other friends, whom now happily doing his bible studies and preaching, and she is working hard while studying for the GAMSAT enrty test to masters in pharmacy. And then I thought, at least they have some other goals to achieve, but me? So I guess sticking back to doing honours isn't that bad.

I have been trying really hard to do a lot of readings, despite planning for my lab works, which is how research works. It requires a lot of self-discipline and time management, but there seems to be endless things to do. The only resting time to look forward to is our lunch break, which is shorter and shorter everyday(decreasing from an hour to 20 minutes). All of us were just talking about our experiments, if we have started our 20 pages introduction, our directed studies assignment, and we will end our conversation in the same way: I have to get back to my office now I have so much work to do. Everybody just have infinity workloads.

Stressful moment is either before seeing the supervisor, where I have to do so many preparation to present him what I have done, what had gone wrong, what should we do next; or after seeing the supervisors realising there is so much yet to be done, there are so many things that I don't know, and sometimes I don't really get what he is saying. Being around with all native speakers now really intimidates me, my tongue just twist and my brain just couldn't bring the correct grammatical information to me.

But, doing honours felt real to me. Felt so real that I am actually studying in Australia because almost every single person that I encounter and talk to everyday is local. Yeah after 4 years I am finally in the local community lol. Anyways it is a brand new experience to me, and I am just glad I have a motivation to achieve my goal, hopefully I'll make mum and dad proud when they come in December! Can't wait!

Enough of lengthy boring words, peeps into what I'm doing.


Vain me in my office.


One of the instruments I used, bored of waiting so, vain me in the lab.



All that dangerous wirings, everything looks like it can explode.

Last, vain tired me when I got home.
I was so tired yesterday because I went out early morning and I started my study group coordinator job at night. At the end I got home about 9 and I was too tired to fake a smile.


love,
J






Thursday, March 3, 2011

轉載:分居兩地的愛戀,才是最真的

一定有許多人不同意,畢竟分隔兩地,不能照顧依偎著對方,心裏的失落總是有的罷。

但是異地戀的人確實是幸福的,比任何人都幸福。




兩個人能整天膩在一起,固然很幸福,他們很少會寂寞,但是也很少有綿長的思念。思念本身就是一種最大的幸福,記得自來也大人曾經對名人說,思念你的人就是你的歸處。

擁有異地戀的人是幸運的,因為你擁有了一個願意和你一起堅持努力的人,你擁有了一顆能和你有著相同執著和夢想的心,你擁有了一份強烈到有勇氣挑戰可惡的距離的愛,這難道不是一種幸福嗎?




每當一個人靜靜的時候,想到有一個人和你一樣在堅守這如此脆弱的愛情,那種溫暖,不是異地戀的人是無法體會的,那是一種心靈無聲的溝通,是無條件的信賴。茫茫人海中,能找到這樣一個無條件信賴自己的人,這難道不是一種幸福嗎?




兩個人常常在一起,難免會大意,他們常常會一起吃飯,一起逛街,一起上課,但是卻常常忽略了心靈上的溝通。對於一份真正的愛情,溝通才是最重要的,它能保持愛情的新鮮感,能讓對方瞭解現在愛著的是怎樣的一個人。只有瞭解了對方,愛情裏才不會有誤解,才不會有錯失了的愛情。所以,異地戀的人有了愛情的優勢,他們很久都見不了面,有了心事,有了難過就在電話裏傾訴,他們的每一次交談都相當於一次交心,因為彼此都能瞭解對方的想念,所以,在他們之間很少有了誤會,彼此都懂得了諒解,懂得了寬容。這難道不是一種幸福嗎?




甜言蜜語也算的愛情的潤滑劑吧,沒有一對戀人可以有像異地戀人那樣擁有繁多的機會說甜言蜜語,每次電話裏,總是無意中會說一些“想你”“等你”“愛你”,即使話不多的人也一樣會說,因為彼此愛著,因為目前只有“語言”這樣一種工具可以表達自己的心情,因為愛的表達,其實都單一。所以,能堅持異地戀的人都是深切的愛著的,這樣的愛在時間的河流裏平淡卻激烈,我想這是所有人都會羡慕的愛。擁有著這樣的愛的你,難道不幸福嗎?

在愛情裏我最不怕的就是距離,只要真正愛著,終歸是能在一起。 是啊,距離在那麼深切的愛裏算什麼?什麼也不是。如果你們因為異地戀就輕易分手了,千萬不要把罪過怪在距離上,你應該慶倖,自己離開了的一個並不真正愛你的人,因為在愛的面前,距離真的什麼也不是。所以,如果你的愛人也在遙遠的地方,不要覺得寂寞,不要覺得委屈,要慶倖,你用寂寞和思念換來了一份真正的愛,那是別人求之不得的愛。



如果你們在一個班,

一起自習,

一起上課下課,

一起泡茶一起記筆記,

離開一秒也無所謂,

還有下一秒;

如果你們在一個學校,

可以一起去圖書館,

一起去電影院,

一起進學生餐廳一起看星星看月亮,

一起運動一起手牽手漫步在校園,

一天不見,

至少還有明天,

至少還可以一起畢業;

如果僅僅在一個城市,

也還可以

一起逛街,

一起吃冰一起玩電玩,

一起坐公車一起乘電梯,

可以一起想起城市某家小店某個好玩的去處,

一個星期不見也會想念,

畢竟不是每個星期都有空,

每個節日都放假;

可是,有些人一刻不曾想念。

不思量,自難忘。

不敢想念,因為不敢忘記。



可是可是,

有些手很久很久沒有辦法牽,

有些依依不捨吻只能對著電話……

下雨啦,有沒有人給她撐傘;

碗裏有他最喜歡吃的肉才想起來不能夾給他;

夜裏醒了,因為夢到她的身邊有另一個他給披衣服;

逛街腳疼了,那個心疼的人不再提醒說,回家吧;

學習累了,想捏捏她的肉肉的臉告訴她,其實你不用減肥,一點不胖;

有了古怪的點子,留著忍著,打電話時告訴他,然後聽他說,好,下次我們見面時一起……

下次,下次有多久?

一個人裹緊大衣一個人吹吹風,

一個人承受另一個的理想,

一個人奮鬥為一個人的承諾,

一個人左手握右手,

一個人堅強一個人守著信仰,

一個人等著,等著一句話:下次見面時一起!

“距離是一份考卷,測量相愛的誓言,最後會不會實現。




我們為愛還在學溝通的 語言,學著諒解學著不流淚,

等到我們學會飛,飛越黑夜和考驗,日子就要從孤單裏畢業 ,

我們用多一點點的辛苦,來交換多一點點的幸福。”

願那些在不同的地方讀書,不同的地方工作的戀人未來幸福.
有時候
愛情…在指縫間承諾指縫….在愛情下交纏

不在一起很小的一件事情也會變的天旋地轉
不在一起每天抱著電話等待那一個電話或者一條簡訊,在那中間享受一點幸福
不在一起千萬不要輕易生氣,否則會比在一起處理起來麻煩上千倍上萬倍
不在一起假如你生氣了請你好好傾聽,心平氣和,相信會有人為你著急
不在一起假如他(她)生氣了,不要去解釋,說些“好聽的”,因為那些比"解釋"靈
不在一起多為彼此著想,站在對方的立場考慮事情,畢竟誰也看不到誰
不在一起..

在一起時 用心去看著他(她)的眼睛,記住那個愛你的模樣
在一起時 用心去拉著他(她)的手,那是一種溫度.
在一起時 用心去珍惜屬於你們的時光
在一起時 ......
異地戀,請深愛!